Break ups are never welcome. Many people have a hard time coping up with a break up and so was my best friend. She was on the verge of a serious depression when I, who had always been her dating guide, had to step in to take care of the situation and fix her broken state (not heart!). There is one truth of life which no one can deny: You can fix yourself only if you want to, but it seemed she lost her enthusiasm to live her life again. I don’t blame her, breaking up with someone with whom you’ve shared so much is no easy deal. So this best friend of mine parted ways with her boyfriend after 4 long years of relationship- needless to say, she was shattered. Here’s what I asked (and made) her to do to make her feel better:
Sounds cheesy, right? But trust me it works. If you can, make the person going through a break up meet people who have been through worse and have survived the setback successfully. I took my friend someone who had survived and ugly divorce. She felt she is crying over something insignificant compared to the story she just heard, and from then on, I noticed her complaining less about what she has lost. Also, I kept her reminding about all the good things in her life which helped regain her confidence.
Talk to people
I made sure she speaks. The worst thing you can do is to keep to yourself all the time. It is true that you want to stay aloof and avoid all kinds of discussions, but it is equally important to share how you feel to people close to you, and know you. Only then you can move on. Repressed feelings and anger build up in something toxic within your system.
Meet new people
It is only a futile attempt to dwell in the past. One has to move on no matter how hard it sounds. Moving on is the only way out of a messed up relationship. I dragged my friend to parties and hang out with friends.
I remember giving her first date ideas when she finally moved on with the guy she is dating now. It was a wonderful feeling altogether to her happy!